Guest Blogger: Mundo Meneses

We’ve been in a great series the past few weeks called Relationship Status. This weekend we’re taking a look at some of the common mistakes singles make in looking for a spouse and 3 key thoughts to avoid those mistakes. In my message, I quoted this old saying, “Dating is like leasing with an option to buy.”  When considering making that car move from lease to buy, you gotta ask yourself all the right questions.

Is it reliable? Do I really like this car? Is it the right car for me? Can I afford this?

All my single people, whom are you considering? Before you make that BIG move, give yourself the exam. Ask and answer the tough questions so you can make the right decision. Here’s a list of good questions that will help you.

• Am I prepared to lead my spouse spiritually and serve him/her in every way?
• Do I have proven character, and am I growing in godliness?
• To whom and for what am I accountable?
• How am I involved in the church? What are my gifts and ministry areas? What are his/her potential gifts?
• Are my motives for pursuing marriage selfish and worldly, or are they to honor God?
• Can I provide financially?
• What do my pastors and parents have to say?
• Is our relationship centered on God?
• Are other people supportive of our relationship?
• Is sexual desire playing too big (or too small) a part in our decision?
• Are we heading in the same direction in life?
• Do either of us have complicated entanglements from past marriages or relationships?
• Do I want to marry this person?  Does this person want to marry me?
• Am I more excited with the idea of being married than the person I am considering marrying?
• Have I had a chance to observe their character?
• What is their track record in relationships?  What is mine?
• Does this person spend time daily with God?
• Is this person actively involved in a Christian church? (Didn’t we ask this already? Yeah…but this is BIG!)
• Does this person desire to pursue the same type of spiritual life and ministry that I desire to pursue?
• What do my strongest Christian friends think about the person I am dating?
• What qualities do I have to offer a potential mate? Am I a “healthy me”?
• Am I truly willing to be single rather than marry a person who is not a Christian or who is not right for me in God’s eyes?
• Am I willing to commit to the marriage for a lifetime, no strings attached? Until death parts us?
• Do I want to spend the rest of my life with this person, even if this person never changes?